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Ep 36, Why Our Self Talk is Keeping Us From Healing From Divorce with Toni Thrash

Welcome back to Rise and Reclaim After Divorce! In today’s episode, I’m joined by my dear friend and life coach, Toni Thrash, as we dive into a topic that affects every part of our healing journey: self-talk.
 
Whether it’s the inner dialogue in our minds or the words we speak over ourselves, our self-talk has the power to either build us up or keep us stuck in cycles of pain. In this conversation, Toni and I unpack:
How self-talk can sabotage our healing: Understanding the impact of negative narratives we replay in our minds.
The connection between self-talk and our faith: Using the Word of God to transform our thinking and align our thoughts with His truth.
Practical tips and resources: Tools and strategies that have helped us rewrite our self-talk, reclaim our joy, and move forward in healing.
 
We’ll share personal stories, scripture, and actionable advice to help you take back your life and break free from the grip of negative self-talk.
 
Key Takeaways:
Recognize toxic self-talk: Learn to identify the lies you’ve been believing about yourself.
Speak life over yourself: Replace negative words with affirmations rooted in God’s promises.
Transform your mind with scripture: Dive into verses that encourage renewal and healing.
 
Resources Mentioned:
Key Bible verses for renewing your mind: Romans 12:2, Philippians 4:8, and Psalm 139:14.
Toni Thrash’s favorite tools for reframing self-talk.
Journaling prompts to help shift your inner dialogue.
This episode will leave you encouraged, equipped, and ready to reclaim your healing journey with God at the center.
 
Special Offers:
Sign up for Toni's newsletter to receive a life-giving PDF called "4 Steps to Overcoming Doubt."
 
Toni Thrash
t.thrash@fortitudelifecoach.com
214-277-9846
https://www.instagram.com/tonithrash
https://www.ToniThrash.com
 
We are the fragrance of Christ,
Dana
 
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Website and Blog link:
https://redeemed-identity.com/blog/
 
RESOURCES DISCUSSED:
 
Dr. Caroline Leaf:
Switch on Your Brain: https://a.co/d/hukEFCI and
The Perfect You: https://a.co/d/ibEJFOF
 
Lysa Terkeurst:
Seeing Beautiful Again: https://a.co/d/49x9Cll

Ep 35, Rebuilding Life After Divorce – My Blueprint for 2025

Episode Summary:
This year has been a revealing season for the Body of Christ, with sin and corruption within churches being uncovered. While it’s heartbreaking, it’s also a reminder that God will not be mocked. Justice is unfolding, and as we prepare for revival, we are called to sanctify ourselves—to separate from what neutralizes us and draw closer to God.
In today’s episode, I reflect on 2024 and share what God has revealed for 2025: It’s time to build. Inspired by the book of Nehemiah, we will dive into rebuilding the areas of our lives ravaged by divorce and its aftermath. This isn’t just groundwork anymore—it’s time to build deeper and stronger.
I also recap Episode 33, where I discussed the importance of having a blueprint for new beginnings and how setting yearly words and scriptures has kept me grounded. If you missed it, be sure to go back and listen!
 
Key Takeaways:
Reflection on 2024:
The importance of righteous judgment in the Body of Christ.
Lessons learned and personal growth through journaling.
Looking Ahead to 2025:
Focus on the theme: Build (Nehemiah 2:17).
New blueprint for Redeemed-Identity Ministry and personal life.
Encouragement for Listeners:
Seek God’s guidance for your words and scriptures for the year ahead.
Embrace new healing, goals, and growth in 2025.
Preview of Upcoming Episodes:
Exciting plans to bring in guests who will speak truth and healing into your lives.
Scripture Highlight:Nehemiah 2:17“Then I said to them, ‘You see the distress that we are in, how Jerusalem lies in waste, and its gates are burned with fire. Come and let us build the wall of Jerusalem, that we may no longer be a reproach.’”
Connect with Me:Have thoughts or questions? I’d love to hear from you!
Email: Dana@redeemed-identity.com
Website: www.redeemed-identity.com
Don’t Forget:Catch up on Episode 33 for more insights on creating a blueprint for your new beginning after divorce.
Thank you for joining me today. Let’s step into 2025 with faith, focus, and a heart ready to rebuild!
Here's to rebuilding you in 2025!
Dana
#divorce, #healingfromdivorce, #christiandivorce

Ep, 34, The Power of Praying Scripture: Overcoming Lies and Embracing Truth After Divorce

Episode Title: The Power of Praying Scripture: Overcoming Lies and Embracing Truth After Divorce
Episode Highlights:
God’s Promises Are Yours: Your identity and destiny in Christ remain intact, no matter your past. Divorce doesn’t cancel your calling!
Praying the Word: Discover the life-changing power of declaring God’s Word over yourself. Learn how Scripture becomes a personal love letter from God.
Fighting Lies with Truth: Replace self-doubt and judgment with God’s truth. Declare His promises with faith and push back the darkness.
Scriptural Power: Hebrews 4:12 reminds us that the Word of God is alive, powerful, and sharper than any weapon. Lean into its transformative power!
Practical Steps: Learn how to declare Scripture with faith and start wielding this powerful spiritual weapon today.
Free Resource:Download my free eBook, Who Am I After Divorce, packed with encouragement and scriptures to help you reclaim your God-given identity and destiny. You can email me at: Dana@redeemed-identity.com. 
 
We are the fragrance of Christ,
Dana
 
Find me on Social Media:
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My Free ebook, "Who Am I After Divorce?" can be downloaded here:
https://dl.bookfunnel.com/4k769kpebf
Website and Blog link:
https://redeemed-identity.com/blog/
Connect With Me:Visit www.Redeemed-Identity.com for more resources and encouragement. Share your journey—your testimony could inspire others!
✨ Your story isn’t over—step boldly into your destiny!
 
#divorce, #healingfromdivorce, #christiandivorce

Ep 33: Step into 2025 with a Blueprint — Build Your New Beginning After Divorce

Are you feeling lost after divorce? Wondering how to move forward when life feels like it’s been reduced to rubble? This episode is for you.
 
I’m sharing where I’ve been, where I want to go in the new year, and the life-changing practice the Lord and I started years ago—creating a blueprint for healing and rebuilding. It begins with seeking the Lord for words, phrases, and scripture to guide the year ahead.
 
This isn’t a journey you take alone—it’s a project between you and the Holy Spirit. Together, you can rebuild with stones chiseled by His hand.
We are the fragrance of Christ,
Dana
 
Find me on Social Media:
https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/
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My Free ebook, "Who Am I After Divorce?" can be downloaded here: https://dl.bookfunnel.com/4k769kpebf
Website and Blog link:
https://redeemed-identity.com/blog/
Mentioned:
The Pages of Her Life by James Rubart (a life-changing fiction read)
SCRIPTURES AND WORDS REFERENCED:
2020
Hope – Romans 15:13
Endurance – Hebrews 10:35-36
2021
Rebuilding the Well – Jeremiah 31:4
Isaiah 12:2-3
2022
Transition – Deuteronomy 31:8
Change – Psalms 32:8
2023
Focus – Philippians 3:12-13
Vision – Habakkuk 2:3
2024
Shephard – 1 Peter 5:2
Obedience – Luke 5:5-6
Fear - Habakkuk 3:17-19
 
#divorce, #healingfromdivorce, #christiandivorce

Ep 32, Navigating Life After Divorce, Tough Questions Answered with Peggy Hurd

In this episode, Dana welcomes back Peggy Hurd, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to dive into the challenging and often unspoken questions surrounding divorce from a Christian perspective. Peggy, with 51 years of marriage and extensive experience in family therapy, brings her wisdom and insight to address some of the most pressing questions that many face before, during, and after divorce.
 
This episode is a must-listen if you’re seeking clarity, understanding, and hope in navigating life after divorce. Settle in, grab a warm drink, and join Dana and Peggy for an honest conversation on topics that are hard to discuss but essential to healing.
 
Key Discussion Points:
 
Functioning Alone After Divorce
Talking About Divorce in Church
Understanding God’s Perspective on Divorce
Releasing Emotional Attachment to Your Ex-Spouse
Turning Off Lingering Feelings Post-Divorce
Is Divorce the Unforgivable Sin?
   - A candid discussion on the misconceptions around divorce and sin in the Christian community.
   - Peggy’s insights on understanding God’s forgiveness and acceptance, offering reassurance to those feeling guilt or shame.
 
Enjoyed this episode? Don’t forget to **subscribe** so you never miss an update!Thank you for listening! Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it. 
 
You can email me at: Dana@redeemed-identity.com. 
 
We are the fragrance of Christ,
Dana
 
Find me on Social Media:
https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/
https://www.instagram.com/redeemidentity
My Free ebook, "Who Am I After Divorce?" can be downloaded here:https://dl.bookfunnel.com/4k769kpebf
 
Website and Blog link:
https://redeemed-identity.com/blog/
 
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
The Divorced Christian, Pastor Darius Good
The Emotionally Destructive Marriage, Leslie
#divorce, #healingfromdivorce, #christiandivorce

Ep 31, Dating After Divorce: How Long Should You Wait and Why it Matters, Part 2

Guest: Jeff Herring, Founder of Content Profit Systems and host of the Content Profit Show. Jeff is a former Marriage and Family Therapist with 25 years of experience, an author of an international relationship column, and a former relationship radio host.
 
Description:
In this episode, we're joined by Jeff Herring, who shares his expertise on navigating the dating world after divorce. Jeff brings invaluable insights from his background in therapy and relationships, offering guidance for anyone ready to explore dating again.
 
What We Cover in this episode:
What are the 3 things we HAVE to have when starting the dating journey?
What are the red flags in self that we should watch for?
How do you really know you are ready to date again?
Why it is so important to RE-remember who you are before you start dating?
Why You Should Listen: 
 
Jeff offers powerful advice for anyone considering dating after divorce. Whether you're wondering about timelines, self-reflection, or uncovering old patterns, this episode is packed with the wisdom you need to make informed decisions. Plus, it’s just the first part of our deep dive with Jeff, so stay tuned for more!
 
We are the fragrance of Christ,
Dana
 
Find me on Social Media:
https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/
https://www.instagram.com/redeemidentity
My Free ebook, "Who Am I After Divorce?" can be downloaded here: https://dl.bookfunnel.com/4k769kpebf
 
Website and Blog link:
https://redeemed-identity.com/blog/
 
JEFF HERRING CONTACT INFORMATION:
www.jeffherring.com
#divorce, #healingfromdivorce, #christiandivorce
 

Ep 30, Dating After Divorce: How Long Should You Wait and Why It Matters

Guest: Jeff Herring, Founder of Content Profit Systems and host of the Content Profit Show. Jeff is a former Marriage and Family Therapist with 25 years of experience, an author of an international relationship column, and a former relationship radio host.
 
Description:
In this episode, we're joined by Jeff Herring, who shares his expertise on navigating the dating world after divorce. Jeff brings invaluable insights from his background in therapy and relationships, offering guidance for anyone ready to explore dating again.
 
What We Cover:
 
- How long should one wait to date after a divorce? Jeff shares insights on recommended time frames and why this waiting period is crucial.
 
- Influence of Past Relationships: We dive into how past relationships, even as far back as childhood, can shape your choices and preferences in future partners.
 
- Self-Red Flags in the Dating Game: Jeff explains the importance of self-awareness and highlights the red flags to watch for in yourself before jumping back into dating.
 
Why You Should Listen: 
Jeff offers powerful advice for anyone considering dating after divorce. Whether you're wondering about timelines, self-reflection, or uncovering old patterns, this episode is packed with the wisdom you need to make informed decisions. Plus, it’s just the first part of our deep dive with Jeff, so stay tuned for more!
 
#divorce, #healingfromdivorce, #christiandivorce
 
We are the fragrance of Christ,
Dana
Find me on Social Media:
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My Free ebook, "Who Am I After Divorce?" can be downloaded here:
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Website and Blog link:
https://redeemed-identity.com/blog/
 
JEFF HERRING CONTACT INFORMATION:
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Ep 29, Holidays with Hope, Building New Traditions After Divorce as a Christian

Episode Summary:
In today’s episode of *Rise and Reclaim After Divorce*, we explore the challenge of facing the holiday season after divorce. The first holidays post-divorce can be especially painful, filled with memories of what was and the uncertainty of what’s to come. Host Dana shares her personal journey of building new traditions and creating a fresh start for herself and her children, despite the heartache.
Key Points Discussed
 The Power of New Traditions 
 Faith and Hope with Jer 29:11
 Practical Steps to Build New Traditions  
 You’re Not Alone  
If you need extra encouragement, a listening ear, or a prayer partner this holiday season, I invite you to reach out. Email her at dana@redeemed-identity.com.
We are the fragrance of Christ,
Dana
 
Find me on Social Media:
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https://www.instagram.com/redeemidentity
 
My Free ebook, "Who Am I After Divorce?" can be downloaded here:https://dl.bookfunnel.com/4k769kpebf
 
Website and Blog link:
https://redeemed-identity.com/blog/
 
#divorcedchristian, #holidaysafterdivorce, #healingfromdivorce
 

Ep 28, Healing from Spiritual and Sexual Abuse in Marriage and Divorce

In Episode 28, we continue the conversation with Peggy Hurd, a licensed marriage and family therapist, who has been instrumental in my healing journey through separation and divorce. Peggy, with over 51 years of marriage, and the wisdom of being a mom of two and a grandmother of two, returns to further unpack the complex topic of abuse in marriage. 
 
In this episode, we focus on two important and often misunderstood aspects of marital abuse: 
- Spiritual Abuse: The misuse of religion, faith, or spiritual authority to manipulate or control a spouse. 
- Sexual Abuse within Marriage: Addressing non-consensual sexual experiences and violations within the context of marriage. 
 
Peggy shares her professional insights and offers practical advice on recognizing these behaviors and beginning the process of healing. Through our conversation, we hope to shine a light on the nuanced forms of abuse and empower listeners to rise and reclaim their lives after divorce.
 
What You’ll Learn in This Episode: 
What constitutes spiritual abuse in a marriage and how it manifests.
Understanding sexual abuse within marriage and the importance of recognizing boundaries, even in intimate relationships.
Signs to look out for if you suspect you or someone you know is experiencing these forms of abuse.
Tips on how to start the healing process and reclaim your personal power.
Listen to Part 1 of the conversation (Episode 27) if you missed the introduction to this series. Peggy’s personal and professional insights offer encouragement and clarity for those on the path to emotional freedom.
 
Enjoyed this episode? Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an update!Thank you for listening! Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it. 
 
You can email me at: Dana@redeemed-identity.com. 
 
We are the fragrance of Christ,
Dana
 
Find me on Social Media:
https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/
https://www.instagram.com/redeemidentity
My Free ebook, "Who Am I After Divorce?" can be downloaded here:https://dl.bookfunnel.com/4k769kpebf
Website and Blog link:
https://redeemed-identity.com/blog/
 
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
The Divorced Christian, Pastor Darius Good
The Emotionally Destructive Marriage, Leslie

Ep 27, Emotional and Financial Abuse: Identifying the Signs with Therapist Peggy Hurd

Episode Summary:
In this special episode, I’m joined by a very important guest—Peggy Hurd, a licensed marriage and family therapist who played a key role in my healing journey during my separation and divorce. With over 51 years of marriage experience, Peggy brings a wealth of knowledge as both a therapist and a wife, mom of two, and grandma of two.
 
This episode kicks off a powerful series where we break down the different forms of abuse—starting today with emotional and financial abuse. We also dive into the concept of gaslighting, a manipulative tactic often linked to emotional abuse. I get candid about my personal experiences, sharing how I coped with childhood sexual abuse and how I survived through the most challenging times of my life.
 
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
 
- Definitions and types of emotional and financial abuse 
- How gaslighting plays a role in emotional abuse 
- Real-life strategies for coping and healing from abuse 
- Insights from Peggy’s 51 years of marriage and her professional expertise 
- My personal journey through trauma, healing, and survival 
 
Key Takeaways:
- Abuse can take many forms beyond the physical. Recognizing emotional and financial abuse is the first step toward healing. 
- Gaslighting can leave victims questioning their reality, making emotional abuse even more damaging. 
- Healing is a journey, not a destination. Sharing our stories and learning from others is part of reclaiming our identity and power. 
- You are not alone. Support from trusted individuals, including professionals like Peggy, can be life-changing.
 
Meet Peggy Hurd:
- Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist 
- Married for 51 years 
- Mom of 2, Grandma of 2 
 
If you’ve experienced emotional or financial abuse, know that healing is possible. Start by recognizing the signs and reaching out for support. 
 
Join the conversation! Connect with us on social media and share your story using the hashtag #RiseAndReclaim. 
 
Thank you for listening! Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it. 
You can email me at: Dana@redeemed-identity.com. 
We are the fragrance of Christ,
Dana
Find me on Social Media:
https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/
https://www.instagram.com/redeemidentity
 
My Free ebook, "Who Am I After Divorce?" can be downloaded here:https://dl.bookfunnel.com/4k769kpebf
Website and Blog link:
https://redeemed-identity.com/blog/
 
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
The Divorced Christian, Pastor Darius Good
The Emotionally Destructive Marriage, Leslie Vernick